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Monday, May 31, 2010

Memorial Day...

I'm remembering today my step-dad that was killed 3 yrs ago. It was a tragic work accident and you never believe it's going to happen to your family....

I'm remembering my husband's dad who died 5 yrs ago...no one thought he would die of cancer at age 50.

I'm remembering all the soldiers who fought for our freedom and lost their lives...their family never thought they'd be the one...

And I'm remembering Christ who gave His life for me and is there to comfort me in the remembering...

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Comfort and pleasure...

America is the land of wealth, plentitude and prosperity. We have been blessed by our forefathers who have sacrificed and lived out godly lives before us for they had paved the way.

Today we have our big homes, multiple automobiles, cushy furniture, entertainment galore at our fingertips----what does this make a Christian?

We are too comfortable. Sinfully comfortable.

In the legendary classic The Foxes Book of Martyrs, Christians gave their lives on behalf of the cross. They were thrown alive into boiling oil--they were bound in bags of scorpions and poisonous snakes and thrown into the sea. There were people who's stomach were cut open and corn was thrown onto their intestines and while they were still alive pigs would eat the corn right out of their bodies.

And we have trouble just calling a Christian friend and encouraging them.

We have trouble even remembering to pray for someone let alone reaching our lost neighbor for Christ. (How many times have people come to you and said 'thanks for praying for me' when you know full well that it totally escaped you?)

We are too engrossed in our 'toys' (computers, playstation's, tv, etc.) passions and pastimes to make any kind of dent on Satan's kingdom. In fact, I'm sure Satan is quite ecstatic that we are so distracted.

We don't like to do things that make us feel 'uncomfortable'. If it is too much effort, it is not worth the work. We complain about our churches because they are not meeting our needs. We gossip about and judge our Christian brethren because we have too much idle time. We spend our days in glorious abundance and indulgent complacency. We are consumed with being like and impressing the Jones'. Our happiness lies in our luxurious conveniences and they rule our lives. Our fulfillment is not seeing lost souls gain salvation but instead, we are motivated in increasing our surrounding creature comforts.

It is just too much trouble to move out of our comfort zones and truth be known, we actually like it here. Here we can enjoy our lukewarm Christianity. You know, the type of faith that Jesus spits out of His mouth:

"So because you are lukewarm--neither hot nor cold--I am about to spit you out of my mouth. You say, 'I am rich; I have acquired wealth and do not need a thing.' But you do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked." Revelation 3:16

Besides, we have our splendid toys to tend to. Why should we bother with anything else?

~From A Wise Woman Builds Her Home

Friday, May 28, 2010


I got my results back from checking to make sure the cancer hasn't come back in my cervix (sorry to any male readers *blush*) and it was clear! I'm so happy about that. It seems my endometriosis is acting up due to hormone fluctuations and I just need to get that straightened out. I can do that herbally. :) Now that I'm not taking the small dose of chemo anymore, my risk for cancer again should be very low. :) I'm feeling particularly well from not taking it anymore. As many of you know after praying about it and talking with my husband, we decided to let my neuromuscular disease take it's natural progression. It's been a wonderful decision so far. :) I pray God continues to give me strength to do the things that need to be done around here and to have strength to spend time with friends. :) The specific areas of weakness that I need prayer for are for my swallowing and for my heart muscle. The other areas of usual weakness have been behaving quite well lately. :) I appreciate any prayers. Thank you! :)

Trusting God....

Sometimes life can throw you a curve ball. We cannot forget God's sovereignty through it all. His hand divinely orchestrates all things for good and for His glory. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is believing His word and trusting Him for the outcome. I sat, one time, under a wonderful Titus 2 woman (Mrs. Norma Whitcomb) as she was teaching about the canvas of life. She said in a beautiful piece of artwork there are bright colors which represent all good things that have happened in a life and there are dark colors which represent the opposite. She said the a beautiful piece of work needs both. See, the dark colors make the bright colors stand out and look more beautiful. Both is need to complete the picture--like the one above.

I know the Lord is not done with my canvas. I know He is making it beautiful in its time.

He wants me to know the true meaning of His words:

"The Lord is my shepherd I shall not be in want."

and this powerful verse:

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

When I am blindfolded, I trust Him to lead me through the valley and guide me with His hand. I hope you will do the same.

~From A Wise Woman Builds Her Home

This jumped out at me today because of the "dark colors and bright colors" much like what I said yesterday about having heartache and joy both together...you don't go through life without both.

Thursday, May 27, 2010


Have you ever asked God why you have to remember certain things? I do...why do I have to remember the painful things?

My brother has moved back to town after living several years in North Carolina. The last time I saw him was soon after my dad was killed three yrs ago...of course memories were stirred. I was reminded that I don't have a dad, at least not a full fledged one. I have one that wants to be...which is something else in my memory.

I will say that God sure does direct our paths. My mom wanted to take us out to lunch today and do you know where she picks? Perkins. The restaurant no one really eats at anymore because the service is terrible EXCEPT for one employee there. My "dad's" son. And guess what...he was working. He got to meet my brother and the question "how do you know each other" came up. I think I looked like a deer in the headlights, so graciously, he answered for us. He told them that we met through his mom and dad and at church. Whew...I did explain to my brother that his dad has been a dad to us the best he can. He said, "Wow..that's cool" My mom knows about the severed relationship with the dad thing and said some things that upset me, but I tried to not let it bother me. I just said, "It's something we are still praying for." Next, subject...:)

Sometimes I just want to go through life with only good memories...instead I feel like I'm constantly reminded of the dad I don't have. I am working very hard to not be envious of people I see with dads. But, I'll be honest, it's hard. My heart aches to have a hug, encouragement, love, celebrations, my son to have a grandpa he can hang out with and learn from, a Father's Day I can be joyful about, and to be a daddy's girl that I see so many other people have the privilege of being. They have no idea just how blessed they are to have that freedom.

Why God is allowing all this to happen is still a question for me. BUT, I know He is sovereign and that He does guide our path. I will continue to pray to be blessed in the way I have seen others if it is His will. I don't know what He has in store for me, but I know it will include heartache and joy together. No one goes through life without both...

When God speaks...

Do you listen? Can you recognize His voice?

I find that God speaks to me when things are quiet. When my mind is still and my heart is open. I wake up about 6:30 every day and I have the morning to myself. I love it. I can sit outside in the coolness of the morning and watch the Earth move with creatures and the breeze that sways the trees. It's quite wonderful. During these times I pray and ponder on things. This morning I was pondering about being overwhelmed and disappointed in myself that I didn't get to the laundry yesterday and Ryan was scrambling around to find things. (I hadn't gotten things put away) It bothers me when I am not fulfilling my duties as a wife and helpmeet due to being overwhelmed with "other things" (Hence yesterdays post on being too busy) During that ponder, God said to me..."When life throws you out of the saddle, dust yourself off and get back on the horse." I kinda chuckled because I can just picture this. :) Then I thought about it and realized that a lot of my life can be summed up in that. I have been thrown out of the saddle quite a few times and each time I have dusted myself off and gotten back on the horse. Now that's not to say I haven't had any bruises as I climbed back on that horse. Sometimes it's painful just to swing your leg over the saddle. But, I do it. Why? Because that horse leads me to the still waters. :)

What are some things God is telling you? Are you listening? When He speaks, do you obey?

Don't let life keep you out of that saddle. You can see a lot farther on that horse than you can laying in the dirt. :)

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Slowing down...

As many of you know, I'm a homebody. I love to be home baking, sewing, cleaning (mostly), schooling, sitting outside and enjoying God's creation, playing my fiddle, etc. Lately, this has not been the case. My weeks have gotten away from me. I used to drive into town just about two times a week. It's been all five days as of late. :( I am not home enough it seems to do the things my heart desires. So I've decided to take some things off my plate. Hallelujah. :) I am not the best organizer and I'm trying to work out my week when I have to go to town. My heart is in my home and I want my body to be there more. ;) So, I think I have it worked out to make that happen.

I'm much more comfortable being home then running around in town doing errands, etc. Looking forward to rest and less stress. So thankful for the things God has given me and thankful for a husband who has noticed the stress of running and has helped me reorganize things. :)

Happy trails to you until we meet again. ;)

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Purity in speech....

It seems I have been struggling a bit lately with modesty of speech. I know that modesty is not just what you wear (although I am modest in my attire), but it is also of speech and attitude. Sometimes when I open my mouth lately, something inappropriate or bold or harsh comes out. This is NOT my desire! I want my speech to reflect Christ just as my clothes do. I'm just in a bit of a slump in this area. I have really been praying about this. I don't want to lose my personality, but at the same time I don't want to offend God. I know there is a balance. :) God reminded me today that I'm not quite there yet with this area of my life, so I will continue to work on it. :) This post helped me. :)

I'm also struggling today with the desire to hug my dad tight and tell him I love him. I do it so many times in my dreams. He is a good man and praying someday I will again be able to do that. He is an important part of my life and I'm trying to be content with the way things are. :) I hope and pray he doesn't stress about this...no need. He just needs to continue to let God guide him and direct his path...even if that path doesn't lead to me being free to be his daughter. I just want him to be obedient to our Lord. That's the most important thing. So if you all could pray that I could push that desire I have to hug my dad aside for now, relax, and be content with the wonderful relationship I do have, I would appreciate it! :) God is good and I'm not upset. :) Just living with real feelings and learning to give them to God. :) I'm always learning and growing. :)

"But no one can tame the tongue...from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way." James 3:8-10

It is so important that we learn to communicate biblically today. We have become immune to the harshness and rashness of conversation of our culture that we tend to emulate it. This should not be so for the Christian woman. We need to emulate God's ways and put on the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit. Here are some guidelines to help us communicate and bring glory to the Lord:

1. OUR WRONG WORDS BEGIN WITH WRONG THOUGHTS AND MOTIVES----we must put off these wrong thoughts and replace them with biblical thoughts. That means time in the Word, having wisdom and discernment to know when we are thinking wrongly, and courage and strength enough to change it. (Matthew 15:19-20)

2. WE ARE ACCOUNTABLE TO GOD FOR EVERY WORD WE SPEAK---we have to be careful not to use 'careless' words. Don't just talk to hear yourself speak. Count the cost of every word coming out of your mouth. (Matthew 12:36-7)

3. WE ARE TO SPEAK THE TRUTH, BUT SPEAK IT IN LOVE--Scriptures teach that "If your brother sins, go and reprove him in private; if he listen to you, you have won your brother." (Matthew 18:15) We need to reprove (or rebuke) in a patient, kind and loving manner.

4. WE MUST PUT OFF ANY WRONG SPEECH--sometimes we are tempted to use angry, abusive or malicious words in our speech. Any kind of wrong speech is sin. Work extra hard to communicate in love. (Colossians 3:8)

5. WE MUST GIVE THE BENEFIT OF DOUBT WHEN IT COME TO JUDGING MOTIVES. We are not to make judgments about the 'motives of men's hearts', only God can judge their motives. (1 Corinthians 4:5)

6. WE ARE MORE LIKELY TO SIN IF OUR WORDS ARE RASH--Words can bring live or death. Proverbs 12:18 states that 'there is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.'

7. WE ARE MORE LIKELY TO BE HEARD IF OUR SPEECH IS FOREBEARING AND SWEET. Not fake--not using manipulation. "Sweetness of speech increases persuasiveness." Proverbs 16:21

8. WE ARE KIND AND WISE WHEN WE TALK. "She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.' Proverbs 31:26 Her words are not rude, tense, harsh or wounding, instead they are edifying and helpful.

9. WE SHOULD PURIFY OUR SPEECH UNTIL IT IS MORE AND MORE FLAWLESS--Purify your speech by practicing over and over until you get what you want to say right. Think through what you should say, then practice it out loud alone. Concentrate on using a 'soothing' tone of voice. (Proverbs 10:20) It may seem silly but scripture teaches us 'to train ourselves for the purpose of godliness'. So that is exactly what we should do!

Faithful Lord, help us to be an example to all in speech...

Monday, May 24, 2010

The weekend...

It was pretty hot this weekend and despite the humidity, I loved it! :) My only disappointment was not getting some skirts done. I'm running out of cool summer skirts. *shrug* Maybe I'll find time this week...or maybe I'll MAKE time this week. ;) It's gonna be hot this week, too, so maybe that will motivate me to find the time.

Had an interesting day yesterday...I've been working through some things with God about my dad. I keep asking Him if some things are just not meant to be or if they are that they can be hindered by others. Of course the answer to both of those was yes. But, He keeps giving me bits here and there of not letting go just yet and to keep giving it some time. So I shall. :) Believe me, I want to because if someday the freedom of love is there, it will be worth it. :) I keep having dreams of my dad praying over his wife outside our house and then them coming inside to talk to us. (Don't ask me, I just dream it. I don't always understand it. lol) I sat by my dad at church last night, which was a special treat. Deep down, though, there was a slight amount of pain because I was reminded of what I don't have. But, then I remind myself of what I do have. :)

Another interesting part was dinner last night. Hunter was with us and we were the first ones there. He sat down by me and said, "Bob is going to sit right here by me because I never get to talk to him anymore and I want to talk to him." So he began to make the seating arrangements in order to fulfill that desire. Unfortunately, the poor guy talked his ear off! ;) Then the waitress made mention of not having a dad...At first I was again reminded of my situation, but then I was overcome with the realization that there are sooooo many opportunities for men to step up and be a mentor to women like us (in an appropriate way of course) My husband's best friend's dad was eating with us last night, too, and he has been a bit of a father figure for us, too, which I am thankful. I guess I didn't realize how great a need there is for godly father figures. I know there is a need in my family, but just hearing the waitress last night made me realize it's bigger than I thought. God has a purpose and a plan and I know He is in control and will provide for me what He sees fit for me to become a better woman closer to Him. I am so thankful for the love I do have from my dad and will continue to pray that it can grow. If it can't, I pray God gives us all a clear picture as to what He wants us to do with our relationship. Whatever He decides, the love will ALWAYS be there.

Heading to church this morning to do some data entry and then come home and try very hard to find time to cut patterns. I have tons of laundry to fold, so it will have to be after that. ;) Later tonight I have to tend to the garden. Don't want weeds to overtake it. :)

I want to close in saying that I am thankful that God is teaching me, guiding me, comforting me, showing me more and more of Himself, and helping me grow a deeper relationship with Him. If my dad could say it, I think he'd tell me he was proud of me in how much I have grown in the Lord in wanting to be the woman He created me to be...

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Home Destroyers part 3


Part 3

Proverbs 14:3, "In the mouth of the foolish is a rod of pride."

Today we talk about the third tool that can pull down our home.


Proverbs 15:25, "The Lord will destroy the house of the proud."

God hates pride. It is always destructive. Yet how easily we succumb to this sin. Sometimes women feel ashamed if their house is poorer than their friends' homes. They want to keep up with the Joneses. They want their children to wear designer clothes. They want them to go to the best schools and best colleges. They want them to have degrees after their names. How are they going to do this?

Maybe they will be lured into the workforce to gain these aspirations. But the root of it all is pride. Instead of bringing blessing, it weakens home life. Children can enjoy a richer life and receive more blessings by having a contented mother in the home than wearing designer clothes and living in a fancier home. Learning to be content is not easy but it is one of the godliest lessons we can teach our children.

1 Timothy 6:6 reminds us that "Godliness with contentment is great gain." Of course, the only way we can teach it is by example.

We definitely don't need all the things we think we need. We can live on a tenth of the stuff we think we need! Nor do our children need all the things they think they want. I am always challenged by the words of Nehemiah, "You gave your good Spirit to instruct them, and did not withhold your manna from their mouth, and gave them water for their thirst. Forty years you sustained them in the wilderness, so that they lacked nothing." (Nehemiah 9:20-21, Deuteronomy 8:3-4 and 29:5)

What did they have in the wilderness? God faithfully provided food and water and miraculously kept their clothes and shoes from wearing out. But they lived in temporary tents. They had none of the modern conveniences that fill our homes today. They had to TVs. No d├ęcor. No running water or instant electricity. And yet God said they lacked nothing.

Proverbs 17:19 says, "He that exalteth his gate seeketh destruction." Matthew Henry comments on this Scripture: "He that exalts his gate, builds a stately house, at least a fine frontispiece, that he may outshine his neighbors, seeks his own destruction."

We know how Satan's pride wrought havoc and destruction in God's heavenly home. When we read about this in Isaiah 14:12-15 we notice that this pride not only caused Satan to be cast out of heaven but he became the one to "weaken the nations." Pride does not build up a home. It weakens a home. It tears it down.

May God help us to remember that each time we put on a proud look, speak prideful words and hold on to our stubbornness, we tear down our home a little more. Eventually we will destroy relationships altogether.

Proverbs 16:18-19 says, "Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall. Better it is to be a humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud." Through divorce, many wives and husbands divide the spoil of their homes as their home folds up. The marriage is destroyed and consequently the children's lives are negatively affected--all because of pride! Too proud to say sorry. Too proud to ask for forgiveness. Too proud to take the humble attitude.

Too proud to change.

Pride is a bitter pill.

Pride is all about self! Humility is all about serving. Are we building up our home or tearing it down?


P.S. There are more Scriptures for you to check out below!


"Oh God, please show me the hideousness of pride in my life. Save me from tearing down my home because of my stubbornness and pride. Amen."


I've decided to take the humble road,

It's the "blessing way" for my abode.

~From "A Wise Woman Builds Her Home

Saturday, May 22, 2010

Good morning...

It's gonna be warm today! :) It's gonna be HOT tomorrow! (93) :) I like it warm, but I don't like it muggy too much. It will be muggy...but, I am thankful anyway. :)

I will be able to get some yard work done today and plant some more flowers that I haven't been able to get to. I just love flowers...not really a fancy flower person, but I love wild flowers. :) They make me smile. :)

We finally have our mower back and will be able to mow our yard today. :) It will be warm, but at least the yard will look nice again.

I pray everyone has a wonderful day!

Friday, May 21, 2010

Home Destroyers part 2


Jeremiah 4:22 RSV, "For my people are foolish, they know me not; they are stupid children, they have no understanding."

Today we continue talking about things that destroy the home.


Proverbs 14:1, "Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish plucks it down with her hands."

What does it mean to be foolish? Simply, it means to do it my way rather than God's way. God's way, although different to my way always ends in blessing. My way, although it may look good, always ends in destruction.

If we are not building our home, we are pulling it down. How do we pull it down?

We pull it down by vacating the home.

God wants the mother in the home--nurturing, nourishing and training her children. We can't do everything successfully. We either build up a business (usually someone else's business) or we build up our home. God has given us a full time job to tend our little flock. God gives a warning to the mother shepherdess when He says in Zechariah 11:17, "Woe to the worthless shepherd, who leaves the flock!" Notice that this Scripture has an exclamation mark!

We pull it down by our words.

Negative words. Critical words. Reactive words. Spiteful words. Angry words. And on it goes.

We build our home with words or we destroy our home with words!

When God allowed Satan to get at his servant Job, he smote him with terrible boils from the top of his head to the sole of his feet Job was in agony and pain. Instead of encouraging him, Job's wife said, "Do you still hold on to your integrity? Curse God, and die." Job replied, "You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?" (Job 2:9-10)

Do you speak as one of the foolish women, or one of the wise?

Sometimes it may not be negative words. It may be wasteful words. Proverbs 15:2 says, "The mouth of fools pours forth foolishness." Often we speak unnecessary words when we should keep out mouths shut. I am always challenged by Proverbs 10:19, "In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise." The more we blab on about anything and everything, the more opportunity there is to sin with our mouth. The NLT makes it clearer, "Don't talk too much, for it fosters sin. Be sensible and turn off the flow!"

We pull it down by spending frivolously and unwisely.

The foolish woman buys according to her whims and what takes her fancy. She buys groceries without thought for nutrition or without reading the ingredients. She fills her cupboards with devitalized packaged foods instead of cooking from scratch. She purchases unnecessary "things" to fill her home which could be used for wiser needs.

Proverbs 21:20 says, "There is treasure to be desired and oil in the dwelling of the wise; but a foolish man (or woman) spendeth it up." The foolish woman spends more than her husband can afford. The wise woman lives frugally within her means. I often have to remind my new adopted daughters that we don't have to eat what we want whenever we want. We must learn to live thriftily rather than extravagantly.

We pull it down by wasting.

Many women not only waste time but waste products. They throw out everything. It is not wise to be a hoarder and clutter up your home, but there are many things that can be re-used to save re-spending.

Many mothers allow their children to pick at their food and leave it on their plate without teaching them to eat what is in front of them. Good food is thrown in the trash. This is wasteful.

May God deliver us from being in the "foolish women category" that pulls down their home.



"Father, please touch my lips with coals from off the altar. I don't want to speak negative words. Fill my mouth with encouraging and life-giving words that will build up my husband and my children. Amen."


Building up my home with uplifting words,

To do anything else is utterly absurd!

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Home Destroyers and an update...


Part 1

"Having food and clothing, with these we shall be content." -1 Timothy 6:8

Reading through Proverbs recently I noticed that it mentions five things that destroy the home. I prefer not to write about negative things, but, on the other hand, we can't wipe any of God's Word under the mat. And God's negatives always turn to positives. When we read His warning signs which mean, ROAD BLOCK, WRONG WAY-GO BACK or DEAD END we know that it is not the road to take, even though it looks beautiful and such an easy road. We must swerve back on the road God has planned for us from the beginning of time. God has never changed his plans. His ways are still the only ones that work effectively. Jeremiah 6:16 says, "Thus saith the Lord, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls."

Let's look at some of these WRONG WAY signs.


Proverbs 15:27, "He that is greedy of gain troubles his own house."

No wonder one of the Ten Commandments is "Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's house... thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife... nor any thing that is thy neighbor's." (Exodus 20: 17) When we see friends with things that we don't have it is easy to hanker after them too. Most people like to be like everyone else and have everything that their associates have. How can this negatively affect the home?

a) By becoming despondent and full of self-pity because we can't afford what we want. This takes away our joy of living and being "content with such things as we have." (Hebrews 3:5-6)

b) As we crave a better house and more things to put in the house we start to plan how we can get these things. Ideas take shape. That's it! I could do what everyone else is doing who has more things. I could go out and get a job! Yes, that's the answer. But is it? To go out and get a job you have to leave the home behind. You have to vacate the very place where God wants you to be--in the heart of the home. (Psalm 1228:3) You have to put your children in daycare or leave them with someone else. God didn't give your children to you to give them to someone else to look after! He gives the responsibility to you. You are the only one who can truly nurture and nourish your baby and children.

c) The home becomes a show piece of material riches rather than filling it with the true riches of children. When you get your eyes on material riches, children become a nuisance.

May God save us from a greedy spirit.



"Father, I pray that you will take every spirit of greediness from me. Give me a contented spirit. Help me to enjoy the riches you have given me - my precious children and the (little) house you have provided for me. I thank you for the blessing of food and clothing. Amen"


Content in my home, that's for me,

With coveting gone, I'm now free!

~From a Wise Woman Builds Her Home

*Update* My ultrasound came back negative for any cancer or abnormalities. :) Waiting for the cervical results, which won't be until late next week...praying for no cancer there! :)

Wednesday, May 19, 2010


In my quest for meekness I came across this writing:

"The meek man is like a ship that rides at anchor, movetur, sed non amovetur--"is moved, but not removed" The storm moves it (the meek man is not a stock or stone under provocation), but does not remove it from its port. It is a grace that in reference to the temptations of affront and injury quenches the fiery darts of the wicked (as faith in reference to temptation in general). It is armor of proof against the spiteful and envenomed arrows of provocation, and is an impregnable wall to secure the peace of the soul there, where "thief cannot break through and steal," while the angry man lays all his comforts at the mercy of every wasp that will strike him. ----Matthew Henry

There is nothing more beautiful to witness than a meek spirit. Meekness and gentleness stands out in a world today that rewards pride and ostentatiousness. Women are no longer gentle and quiet but instead are loud, rude and without discretion. They are no longer beautiful with a calm, serene spirit but instead draw attention to themselves in worldly ways such as using foul language, having a prideful posture, immodest dress and having a spirit of strife. They adorn themselves with anger and lack of self control and their quest for true beauty is in vain. Little do they understand that true beauty cannot be bought at the local mall outlet or found in a bottle of cosmetics.

Meekness, on the other hand, is the ornament of fruit disposed by the Holy Spirit. It is His magnificant work in our lives as we yield ourselves to His majesty. The meek are blessed "for they shall inherit the earth." Meekness stands out as a shining light and testimony---a calm, soft, mild, friendly and kindly spirit is a truly a treasure---the rarest of gems! Meekness comes from wisdom (James, see below) and "is of great worth in God's sight"1 Peter 3:4. Meekness is a priceless gift that reflects our Savior and as Christians we are to "let our gentleness be evident to all." Phillipians 4:5. True beauty is found in gentleness and quietness of spirit evidenced by a life surrendered to Christ. Meekness should be viewed as a blessed virtue and grace for Christian women to possess and seek after. A spirit that has self control and is self governed is a blessing to the entire world.

"Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the meekness that comes from wisdom." James 3:13

From A Wise Woman Builds Her Home

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

The Bitter Woman...

Life has its highs and lows---unexpected change can come, death, a move, financial issues, marital problems. If we are not careful to think biblically, something dangerous can set in. It is called bitterness. Here are some of the signs:

Common Signs of Bitterness:

1. Gossip and Slander

2. Ungrateful and Complaining

3. Judges Motives

4. Self-centered

5. Excessive Sorrow

6. Vengeful

7. Brooding

8. Loss of Joy

9. A Critical, Judgmental Attitude

Entertaining bitterness can result in a woman who acts out and yells at her husband & children, pouts to get attention, name-calls, criticizes, manipulates by crying (or silence) to get her way, and acts no less like a child who is throwing a tantrum. Only now, the scary thing is...she is a full blown adult! It truly defiles her family and herself. (Heb 12:15)

Are you that woman?

It is so easy to take our eyes off Jesus. Like Peter who began to sink in the water as he took his eyes off Jesus--we are no different. We simply cannot allow circumstances to rule our moods or our lives. This is not just a form of tearing down our homes, but also SIN. We are called to self-control. This means not just externals but the ever so important internals. The fruit of the spirit is abounding in love, joy,peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. (Gal 5:22)

Problems affect all of us. I believe our greatest need apart from Christ is knowing and trusting Scripture to help renew our minds. Do we really believe the promises? Do we trust God with EVERY aspect of our lives (not just the ones that are easy to surrender)? How great is our faith? If it is small, we had better make sure to pray for that small mustard seed to grow.

If God truly directs our paths, then we should have no need of worry. We don't need to react. He is in control, not us. We are blessed to have a Solid Rock, a firm Foundation. We cannot be swayed emotionally to and fro like the waves. We must close and guard the door so that bitterness cannot sneak into our lives.

Bitterness grows when you 'take into account a wrong suffered' (1 Corinthians 13:5) but Hebrews 12:15 teaches us to:

"See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled."

From~A Wise Woman Builds Her Home

Monday, May 17, 2010


I'm so glad we serve a God who comforts His children in times of well, all the time. I have been burdened a bit lately with frankly being discontent and envious. I have been discontent with what I have and need to be content with what I do have. I'm not talking about material things. ;) I have also been envious of the children that can openly, in front of God and everyone, express their love to their dad verbally. I'm working on those things and God has been a comfort to me during this "working out" of such things. I can become disappointed in myself because I felt this way, and I have, but it's not very productive for me. I get "stuck" if I do that. So, I have decided to face how I feel and give it to God...

I had my ultrasound today and God was there to comfort me during that, also. I've been in quite a bit of pain and just hoping it's nothing to worry about. I should find out something on Wednesday. I know that this body isn't going to last forever...and I try to do the best I can with it. I look forward to "that day" when we get a glorified body and have no more pain, sickness, weakness, difficulty swallowing, exhaustion, or trouble seeing. Someday I will see the Lord with new eyes and a new body. :) Praise God that "there is a day". :) It makes my heart swell with joy...

I will be so glad when this rain is over...I NEED to get out in the garden before I lose it to grass. Lately, I have been enjoying the beautiful sounds of the mockingbird. :) It's almost as good as the frogs. :)

I've got some shirts to sew and some skirts, too. I love that I can make my own clothes. I'm so thankful to my Mennonite friends for teaching me some of their tricks. :) I can make modest clothes that I wouldn't normally be able to find in stores. I hope to get some time this week to at least get a shirt done. :)

"Shout for joy, O heavens; rejoice, O earth; burst into song, O mountains! For the Lord comforts His people and will have compassion on His afflicted ones." Isaiah 49:13

Thank you, God, for having compassion on me and comforting me...

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Getting past things...

I find myself having a hard time at times of getting past not having a full relationship with my dad. I'm still uncomfortable with not knowing how to act or what to say and often just stand there with a blank look on my face. Today at church I was telling them how my uncle had a heart attack and because I was so uncomfortable, I smiled when I said it. Who does that? I wasn't happy my uncle had a heart attack...sigh. I can feel the tears just welling up inside me and often, almost every time, when we speak the tears are in my eyes. I feel bad for that. I don't want him to see my heart breaks because I cannot tell him I love him or because I can't hug him or because I can't hang out with him and glean advice about raising boys from him...This is something I really have to work on...it's just hard. I am thankful for the relationship we do have...at least I can talk to him about general things and see his face every Sunday. I really am thankful for that...

It's raining here today and chilly. I don't mind the rain, but I sure mind the chilliness. I love it warm. :) I have an ultrasound tomorrow afternoon and hoping that can put to rest some of the problems I've been having. It will be nice to know that nothing serious is going on....

The sermon at church today was really good. It was about loving others and getting back to the basics of what we believe as Christians. It was also about being obedient. Good stuff. :)

Hope everyone enjoys their Sunday...rest. It's what the day was created for. ;)

Friday, May 14, 2010

Just today...

Ok...I know the ladies will know what I'm talking about...why is it that when we go to the "girl" doctor they keep the room like an ice box and give you these tiny little paper "sheets" to cover up with. Why oh why do they do that? :) They have to know that those things are no way gonna keep you warm in room that feels like a refrigerator....Talked a bit about hysterectomy, but she doesn't think I will be approved to have one. I'm too young. Even with my past history of problems and cervical cancer, she doubts it will be approved. I told her I can handle being in pain if I know that nothing serious is going on again. So she scheduled me for an ultrasound on Monday afternoon. She did the routine cervical cancer check today and I should have results in about 10 days or so. I will probably be making an appointment with a new doctor soon. A fresh look at my situation and all that...

On to something more pleasant...

I'm feeling a bit better today. Seems like the cold is on the way out. :) I'm still tired from it, but at least I can breathe now. :) I really need to mow today. We were putting it off because our mower broke down, but it's been two weeks and they haven't even looked at it. :( So we are borrowing one to use.

Got a roast in the crock pot so we can have bbq pulled pork sandwiches tonight for supper. Mmmmm.

I feel like I have been so busy this week and I really just need to rest. I'm hoping to do that tomorrow.

My prayer for today is that God would settle my heart...

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Under the weather...

That's me...started with a sore throat and now has turned into a cold. It has wore my body down and zapped me of most of my energy. Hunter has the same thing and it has done the same to him. He's usually going a million miles an hour and now he just wants to sleep.

Despite all that I have tried to keep busy...this morning before 7 I went out and worked in the garden and the captain helped me put some cardboard down. I came inside and baked some blueberry muffins (which were really good gluten free), washed up the dishes, and started some laundry. This afternoon I'm making an angel food cake to take to the gluten free store tomorrow to see if she likes this recipe. She is thinking about selling them. I'll probably only make 4 a week and it will be special order. But, I thought it was kinda cool do be able to do (while God allows me) Tonight Hunter has camera club and they are showing his picture that won 3rd place in a contest of 216 entries. He's pretty excited.

I have to go in to the doctor tomorrow to make sure the cervical cancer I had hasn't come back. I've been having some problems and it has concerned me. We will probably be talking about a hysterectomy for sometime in my future...

I pray everyone has a good day. :)

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Christian Feminism...

Christian women cannot effectively begin to build and strengthen their families if they do not discern some of the key lies that are cleverly interwoven into our culture today. Sadly, these lies have pervaded our churches and homes as well and many biblical lines have been blurred. Feminism has distinctly played a key role is disguising these falsehoods as truth and deceiving too many unsuspecting families.

When Christian women and men believe and embrace these obvious perversions to the scripture we end up with a problem...

We now have given birth to what is known as 'Christian feminism' in the church.

This is dangerous because it teaches Christian women the opposite of scripture. It does not seek to build their homes but instead tears it down. The world uses every medium of communication to dispose their misleading forgeries upon unsuspecting families, but we must be wise to discern our lifestyles and philosophies today- especially among the body of Christ.

Pastor William Einwechter shares his thoughts on six areas where we have strayed from biblical norms in his article The Feminization of the Family:

"The feminization of the family is seen in at least six areas:

First, marriage has been destabilized, and divorce is rampant. Feminism’s “diabolization of marriage” has made divorce “socially and psychologically more acceptable by the idea that it is a reasonable response to a defective and dying institution.” The biblical teaching that marriage is a divine and covenantal institution that binds a man and woman together for life by a sacred vow (Gen. 2:18-24; Matt. 19:3-9) has been repudiated by modern society. The biblical concept has been replaced with the notion that marriage is a mere human institution, an imperfect one at that, and that divorce is a reasonable way to deal with any misery associated with it.

Second, male headship in the family has been replaced by an “egalitarian” arrangement where the husband and wife “share” in the leadership responsibilities of the family. The scriptural idea that the man is head of the family (1 Cor. 11:3-12; Eph. 5:22-23) and lord of his household (1 Pet. 3:5-6) is considered by feminists to be both tyrannical and barbaric, a vestige of primitive man and his ability to physically dominate his spouse. In our day, the overwhelming majority of both men and women scoff at the notion that the wife should submit to her husband’s authority.

Third, the man as provider has been rejected for a new model of joint economic responsibility. The view of our time is that the man is no more responsible than the woman to provide for the financial needs of the family. Feminists believe that the scriptural teaching the man is the family provider (1 Tim. 5:9) is part of a male conspiracy to hold women down by making them economically dependent on men.

Fourth, the women as a full-time homemaker is scorned, and the working woman who seeks fulfillment and independence in employment outside of her home is now a cultural norm. The biblical mandate that a woman be a “keeper at home” (Titus 2:4-5) is either unknown or unheeded. Feminist-minded folks consider it to be a demeaning thing for a woman to stay at home and confine her work to the sphere of her house and her family. A career is considered more suitable and meaningful for today’s wife and mother.

Fifth, the biblical norm of a woman as a nurturer of children has been replaced by the feminist ideal of a working mother who places her children in “daycare” so that she can pursue other important matters. The responsibility of motherhood is seen in far different terms than it was in the past. The biblical call to the mother to be with her children, to love, train, teach, and protect them (1 Tim. 2:15; 5:14) is rejected for the feminist vision of the woman who is freed from such constraints on her individuality and own fulfillment.

Sixth, the idea that a large family is a “blessing” is rejected for notion that a small family of one or two children (and for some, no children at all) is far better. The concept of “family planning” geared at reducing the number of children in the home is advocated by nearly all. The biblical teaching that a large family is due to God’s blessing and sovereignty (Ps. 127; 128) is despised by modern families, even those claiming to be Christian. The feminist’s view that we determine the number of children we will have, that we are sovereign over such matters is now accepted with hardly a question. Of course, this supposed sovereignty over life and birth leads to a justification of abortion, the ultimate birth control."

*Be sure to read this post carefully.* This is not a post attacking women who have to work or have to stop having children due to medical reasons,etc. It is attacking the ideas that demean, ridicule and mock what is holy and upheld in Scripture. We need to take a closer look at what is accepted as normative society today and see how it parallels with Scripture.

And in the spirit of Proverbs 31 and Titus 2,

we must be able to defend scripture
and the biblical family
even if it means taking a stand against this world
and it's misleading fallacies
and understand that




Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Contentment in the Palace...

I think it is pretty hard for women today to find contentment because of all the temptations of this world. The rush is on to have the best, the newest, the latest and the trendiest. Advertisements seduce us from all sides against our better judgment.

A simple woman who wants to live a simple life finds it so challenging to turn her eyes away from all that the world has to offer. She is tempted to think that she needs material possessions in order to have joy when in reality---she possesses it all along.
In fact, she is overlooking the truth: that she possesses great treasure that mere money cannot buy.

See, money cannot buy eternal life in Christ or the riches found in Him.
Money cannot buy the new work God is working in you.
Money cannot buy the forgiveness you have been freely given.
Money cannot buy godly character.
Money cannot buy a godly husband.
Money cannot buy that sweet little baby growing inside of you.
Money cannot buy all those sweet little children that live in your home.
Money cannot buy the love of a family.
Money cannot buy true friends.
Money cannot buy a happy home.
Money cannot buy true peace.

You can take all these things from us and still, if we possess Christ, we are RICH.

We are happy and give thanks for the simple:

Food and clothing.

(1 Tim 6:8)

People would laugh at that today, insisting the newest technologies guarantee happiness.

But Christians know THE TRUTH.

And we will walk in that truth.

Because we are not bound by the world and its strongholds.

It is mandatory that we not allow let the lusts of this world dictate how we govern our homes, finances, and thought life. Worldly contentment is only happy with the here and now, but we fix our eyes on the eternal,
the temporal.

Let us truly live our lives as such.

Matthew Henry (1662-1714) had this to say about discontentment:

“Discontentment is a sin that is its own punishment and makes men torment themselves; it makes the spirit sad, the body sick, and all the enjoyments sour; it is the heaviness of the heart and the rottenness of the bones. It is as in that is its own parent. It arises not from the condition, but from the mind.
As we find Paul content in a prison,
so Ahab discontent in a palace.”

Can we be content in any situation? In any circumstance?

Or are we worldly minded, and find ourselves discontent in our palaces?

~From "A Wise Woman Builds Her Home"

Monday, May 10, 2010

Life's little inconveniences...

I'm here at the library...our internet has broke down and the company needs to put up a new tower. It will take 3 to 5 days at least. :( It's funny because with being a stay at home mom and a homeschool mom, the internet is my access to the outside world. :) It is the way I stay connected to the people I love that I don't see everyday. It's here that I can say I love my dad and that I'm praying for him. I can share things that God has laid on my heart on being a better wife and mother to lots of other women that I wouldn't normally get to. :)

I enjoyed yesterday for Mother's Day. It was beautiful outside and I planted some flowers. :) My husband and I laid in the grass and watched our chickens run. It was so nice just laying there in the sunshine. This was before he decided to rescue some of the kittens that got away from their mother under the back deck. The mom was not looking for them and acting like she didn't have any kittens. So he took up a couple of the boards on the deck and after a lot of finagling, we got them out. :) She is back to nursing them and taking care of them. He is sweet to do that...told me not to tell anyone. ;)

If you don't see me for a few days...don't fret...I'll be back. :) Until then, ponder on this...Do you think God can have His purposes for our lives interrupted by man? What I mean is, do you think people can stand in the way of His work? It was just a thought that has been bouncing around in my head.

I pray everyone enjoys their week...

Friday, May 7, 2010

Ask Your Husband...

There is a freedom that God has given us as women. That freedom is the umbrella of authority that He has placed before us to protect us. The umbrella of authority that protects a women is first:

1. God
2. Her Husband

Once a woman understands that submission to her husband is true freedom and woman can begin to truly enjoy and experience peace with true abandonment simply because she is acting in accord to what the Lord has purposed for her life.

It is very freeing to know that the many weighty decisions that must be made for our families are ultimately our husbands responsibility. We will not be held accountable for our families the way our husbands will be---for God called Adam into account and not Eve.

It is a good thing to ask our husbands advice on all matters. We should not look to our family, parents, church leaders or other Christian woman first. Whenever woman ask me for advice I try to ask them 'What did your husband say about this matter?" and they will often reply "My husband? Well, I haven't told him yet..." and I then proceed to encourage them to quickly do so.

See ladies, so often I hear the very same ladies complain that their husbands are not the 'spiritual leaders' they think they should be. Well, I assure you, that as wives there are many ways we can help our husbands to become that leader simply by equipping him with confidence. Behind every great man, there is a woman and that woman helped to influence him to who he is today. Surely this is not always the case, but women should not belittle, ridicule or neglect consulting their husbands because this is not building him up. We equip them with confidence by going to them and asking their opinions and getting the final word from them. As they see us trusting them in their decision making they will steadily become more confident and emboldened to speak into our lives and others. This is part of God's plan to shape a godly man, by having his wife trust in him and submit. It is a blessed thing to witness a women who says 'let me ask my husband first'. Once we begin asking it becomes much easier to do this in the future. Most men are willing to die for their wives and families so why do we neglect to give them the honor of going to them first? When we follow the Lord's commands it is the beautiful, sacrificial act of submission---and for the Christian woman this means His unsurpassing peace and joy.

~From "A Wise Woman Builds Her Home"

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